Look Into My Eyes

By : Allen Thompson

a little about the eyes

The eyes are quite amazing! Very few things surpass the importance of our eyes when engaged in social interaction... especially with those gorgeous women we love to feast them upon. I'm not talking about eye contact in this article, or the way we use our eyes to connect and disconnect with others; I'm talking about the eyes themselves... specifically the pupils of your eyes.

There are three extremely important things to understand right up front:

· The pupils of our eyes dilate and grow larger when we see someone we're attracted to.

· Larger and dilated pupils are seen as more attractive than smaller and contracted pupils.

· We like those who like us.

dilated pupils

Whenever we see someone we like, our pupils grow larger. It's almost as if our eyes are trying to see as much of this person as possible. This is an involuntary and uncontrollable physiological response.

Thus, you can often tell if a woman is attracted to you by observing her pupils, and whether they expand or contract, or maybe do nothing. (Note: contracting would not be good for you... as it likely means she not only is not attracted to you, but actively dislikes you. Sorry about that.)

Sometimes, the environment can interfere with the psychological responses of our pupils. If you're outside on a bright sunny day, it may be difficult for her to dilate her pupils. Similarly, if you're together in a dimly lit room, her pupils are probably going to be dilated no matter how much she feels about you.

One other thing to keep in mind is her base level, or natural pupil size. This varies somewhat from person to person. Some people have larger pupils while others have smaller ones. So to effectively judge your effect on her, you're going to remember her base level and judge the change when she gazes in your direction. Please try to be inconspicuous about this. Do not tell her what you're doing; if she had any idea, it would make her very uncomfortable.

On the other hand, keep in mind that if the gorgeous girl you've been checking out knows her pupil physiology, she already knows you're attracted to her. She can see it in your eyes; and short of wearing sunglasses or avoiding all eye contact, there's not much you can do about it. But I wouldn't worry about this too much, there's very little chance that your average lady is going to understand this particular psycho-physiological response.

the larger the better

The second thing to keep in mind is that larger and dilated pupils are considered more physically attractive, and friendlier than the smaller and contracted pupils. For example, studies with photographs have shown that attractiveness increases as pupil size increases. Likewise, if the researchers altered the pupil sizes in the photographs to make them smaller, they could decrease the attractiveness of the individuals in the photos.

We're talking about the same target photos here. Increasing or decreasing the pupil sizes in the same photos will alter its effect on the subjects. We're not comparing different people with different pupil sizes and concluding that those with larger pupils are seen as more attractive than those with smaller pupils. Obviously, there are a lot of other variables to consider when comparing different individuals.

Belladonna is Italian for "beautiful lady", and was frequently used by 16th century women to give their eyes a sexy and dreamy look, by dilating the pupils. Another important point is that these pupil attractiveness effects operate in a subconscious fashion. The people in the experiments know they like the photos with the dilated pupils better, but they don't know exactly why. The person just seems more handsome , prettier , or friendlier somehow. They do not realize the pupils have been altered physically by the researchers. Thus, ideally, you would like for your pupils to be as large as possible when gazing at women you're attracted to, therefore making you more attractive. And usually, as mentioned in the first part of this article, that is exactly what happens.

You see a beautiful girl. Your pupils dilate. The large pupils cause her to see you as more attractive than she otherwise might. Your responses are automatic. Her responses are subconscious. Works out pretty well doesn't it?

Keep in mind that it works the other way as well. If a girl is attracted to you her pupils dilate when she looks at you. As a result, you will see her as being more attractive than you might otherwise think her to be. Again, both reactions are automatic and subconscious.

we like those who like us

We are almost always attracted to those who are attracted to us. Why? The main reason is probably because when another person likes us, it makes us feel good about ourselves. It gives us an ego boost, increases our self-esteem and self-confidence.

Like it or not, we often judge ourselves by other people's reactions to us. If others seem to like us, then we feel good about ourselves. If others don't seem to like us, then we may feel bad about ourselves. This does not always occur, but it happens most of the time. Given this principle of reciprocal liking, we now have a logical explanation to explain the attractiveness effects described above.

When you look at a girl you're attracted to, your pupils dilate. Subconsciously, she notices your dilated pupils and concludes that you like her and are attracted to her. Since people who like her give her an ego boost and make her feel good about herself, she becomes more attracted to you than she might be otherwise. Does this make sense?

So remember, if you want someone to like you, then you have to like them. This simple principle has been known for ages. Yet it's amazing how few people really understand it or practice it. And how dearly this lack of understanding costs them.

a few examples

Now that we understand the three points discussed above, the question becomes, "How can we use this information to enrich our lives by making ourselves more attractive to women?" I'll go over a few possible scenarios, but you have to use your imagination. There are dozens of ways to use the knowledge you now possess to add love, romance, and excitement to your life.

Ever wonder why a candlelit dinner with wine is considered so romantic? Think about it. The dim light dilates the pupils of both individuals, making them both more attractive to one another than they really are, not to mention hiding minor physical flaws. The alcohol in the wine also accentuates the pupil dilation even more.

Yes, alcohol dilates the pupils. It also promotes relaxation and reduces inhibitions. It's definitely your friend on a date. But be careful not to abuse of it; a little is romantic, but a lot becomes unpredictable and can wind up ruining the evening.

Another helpful tip: Remember to look straight into the eyes of that beautiful lady you're interested in. You're attracted to her and your pupils dilate. She subconsciously recognizes your attraction, and all you've done is look into her beautiful eyes. You haven't really said or risked anything. Seems pretty simple doesn't it? Don't be surprised if she tells her girlfriends what beautiful eyes you have.

I know. I know. You're shy. You usually go to extremes in order to avoid eye contact... especially with women you're attracted to. You look down. You look away. You look anywhere but into her eyes. You would rather die than let her know you're attracted to her. You want her to be attracted to you first, and once you're sure she's attracted to you, then maybe you'll let her in on the fact that you also like her.

big mistake

If you want someone to like you, you have to show that you like them. Look into her eyes and smile. If need be, force yourself to... just for a couple seconds every now and then.

I'm not talking about staring into her eyes until the sweat starts popping from her brow. Staring will simply make her feel uncomfortable. Just add a little casual eye contact into your conversations with her and smile. She will come to like you even more because of that.

Ever go to bars? Ever notice how beautiful the women in bars look? Yes, the women definitely dress to impress. But also, bars are usually dimly lit, and with a high amounts of alcohol going around. Dilated pupils and reduced inhibitions are everywhere.

And do these beautiful ladies get even more beautiful at closing time? Ever heard that? It could be, of course, that you're more desperate at closing time, or too drunk to tell the difference.

It's also very likely that as the evening winds along and the women drink more and more, that they actually do get more beautiful. Their pupils become more and more dilated giving their eyes that sexy and dreamy look. Think about the secrets I've just revealed to you, and be sure to act upon them.